In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms

While feeling down (due to PMS) and walking through Wegmans, I came across this book: In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I've been dealing with some mental/emotional issues with my decision to stay at home, so thought I might give the book a look-through and see what it had to say. I am so glad I bought it!

As a working mother with two college degrees, I have had a range of reactions to my decision to leave work. Some have supported my decision and said "That's great!" Others have been more negative and implied that I was going to lose my skills/intelligence/usefulness by leaving my job. Granted, the naysayers are fewer in number than the encouragers, but it can be hard to deal with when they are people you respect (or thought you respected).

This book was totally helpful to me in that it a) helped to validate my decision to stay home and b) offered wisdom on dealing with the changes that will occur and the various emotions that will come as I change my perspective. I also agree with Dr. Laura's assessment that colleges train women to think that their best contribution to the world should come from being 'career women.'

I went back to work after Joseph was born because I felt like I 'had to' for financial/benefits reasons, and, honestly, because I felt like I 'needed to' in order to prove that I could do both (since I'm so 'educated'). As a result, I've had more struggles with trying not to cry as I leave my son every morning--although thankfully I have had the privilege of having my sister, a very loving auntie, watching him instead of an institution--than I ever have had with leaving work at the end of the day. My entire life has changed, and I no longer want to put my energy into primarily supporting work instead of my family.

Don't get me wrong - I love my job, have a great boss and co-workers, and feel very blessed to have been able to earn income doing something I like for 4+ years. I know many other people would trade places with me in a heartbeat. However, my son is more important, and there is no one else in the world (not even my mom or sister or mother-in-law) who can be his MOM!

Here's to all the stay-at-home moms out there - HIP, HIP, HOORAY! I look forward to joining you soon.

New, new, new

What's new: Joe and I started a new business last week with Ambit Energy. We are pretty excited about the opportunity to help people save money on their energy bills and also to partner with other people who want to build their own business. If you live in Texas, New York, Illinois, Maryland, or Pennsylvania and want to learn more, visit our customer website or watch the introductory video! (Another cool thing: It's FREE to become a customer! And it really does save you money!)

What else is new is a firm decision in regards to my future. I have decided to leave my current job and become a full-time stay-at-home mom! (Otherwise known as an SAHM. Say it with me, saaahmmm.)

I will still be working part-time, either at my current place of work or on our own businesses (in addition to Ambit, I also do project management for companies who need graphic/web design or marketing, and Joe is currently in the process of purchasing our first rental property - yes, we do keep busy), but overall I am so looking forward to being able to focus on being a mom first and work second! Right now it's hard to keep it that way when I only see him for a few hours most days.

This is going to be a big change but it's a good one!

Working and breastfeeding

Sometimes I don't like pumping. It's noisy, a little painful sometimes, and it forces me to take breaks even if I'm working on something important.

However, I was realizing today how blessed I am. I have the ability to produce healthy, wonderful food for my baby boy while I'm away from him. I'm even more blessed to have been able to afford a great electric pump that works really well (even though it's old!). And I'm able to work a "real job" to help obtain the income our family needs while my extended family helps us by watching our son. (And we are able to help my sister by paying her to watch him too!)

So, even though I'd rather be home with him all the time, I'm still very blessed. And I do like my job! Which is more than a lot of people can say. God is so good.